Libra: The Art of Indecision and an Appreciation for True Elegance

Born between September 23rd and October 23rd, Libras are often described by their friends as “indecisive,” “empathetic,” and “highly comfortable to be around.” There’s a common saying that if you’re not both attractive and elegant, don’t waste your time pursuing a Libra. But what do Libras themselves have to say about their nature? Let’s delve into the minds of a few typical Libras to uncover the truth behind the scales.

The Voices of Libra

Xiao Luzi

Birthday: October 10
Occupation: Trainer

Self-Evaluation:

“I am a Libra through and through. My friends often say I’m the textbook definition—my birthday and rising sign are both in Libra, so my indecisiveness is off the charts.”

Indecision

My quest for perfection fuels my indecisiveness. Sometimes, the result of overthinking is that I make no choice at all, which is why I often end up buying entire sets of things. However, when I know for sure I don’t want something, I can be surprisingly decisive and swift in my refusal.

Gentleness

I have an extremely low tolerance for sadness and dislike hurting others. I’d rather shoulder the burden myself than cause anyone else pain, adhering to the principle of ‘let the world betray me, but I will never betray the world.’

Appreciation

I admire people who are both attractive and elegant, but elegance takes precedence. Elegance encompasses so much—cultivation, inner depth, and grace. What society deems as attractive might not align with a Libra’s taste. In other words, true elegance makes someone beautiful in our eyes, whereas mere physical beauty without that essence often falls flat for us.

Friendship

I prefer friends who share similar values, are polite, and maintain a respectful distance—like the saying, ‘a friendship between gentlemen is as pure as water.’ In Shanghai dialect, we call this ” (lǐn dé qīng), meaning someone who understands boundaries. This is crucial. I particularly dislike friends who are overbearing or create discomfort.

Strong Moral Compass

My moral sense is very strong, almost to the point of having a spiritual purity complex. Even when situations don’t involve me directly, I can’t stand by and watch unfair or unkind behavior. I often find myself stepping in to protect others, even if it seems foolish or unnecessary to them.

Yu Ren

Birthday: October 11
Occupation: Editor

Self-Evaluation:

“I consider myself an atypical Libra.”

Indecision

I tend to hesitate over almost everything, but my ‘choice paralysis’ probably stems from financial constraints (laughs). If money weren’t an issue, I wouldn’t hesitate—if I really like something, I’d buy it immediately.

Gentleness

I care a lot about others’ opinions, which often leads me to blame myself for not being good enough.

Appreciation

Anyone I can connect with intellectually can be a friend; I don’t have specific criteria. I don’t have extremely high standards for looks—generally pleasant is fine—but elegance is essential.

Strong Moral Compass

My moral standards are quite high, likely influenced by my life experiences. If someone close to me crosses a moral line, even if it doesn’t affect me directly, I’ll feel a strong aversion toward them and wrestle with whether to take action.

Peng Shifu

Birthday: October 4
Occupation: Actor

Indecision

I hesitate with every decision I make, especially when I’m uncertain. I remember one time, there were bugs at home, and I thought about taking the quilt outside to sunbathe. Then I reconsidered because I had to go to work soon, so I decided to do it another day. But the weather was so nice that I kept going back and forth until it was almost time to leave, and I ended up not sunning the quilt at all. Another time, my girlfriend invited me to spend the New Year with her family, and I deliberated for months before finally deciding not to go.

Appreciation

Honestly, I think all men are drawn to women who are both attractive and elegant—except, of course, when it comes to close friends.

Friendship

I’m not particularly fond of interacting with strangers. In friendships, I value people who are polite, well-mannered, and articulate in their speech. I really dislike those who take jokes too far or behave impolitely.

Strong Moral Compass

At my last rental, the couple next door had frequent disputes where the man would hit the woman. I felt utter contempt for such behavior and mentally drafted numerous ways to intervene and stop him.

Understanding the Libra Psyche

What emerges from these personal accounts is a nuanced portrait of the Libra individual. Their notorious indecisiveness isn’t merely capriciousness but stems from a deep-seated desire for harmony and perfection in every aspect of life. This extends beyond material choices to interpersonal relationships and moral judgments.

The Libra appreciation for elegance over mere appearance reveals their sophisticated nature. They possess an innate ability to discern genuine quality from superficial charm, making them excellent judges of character. This discernment applies equally to their social circles, where they seek meaningful connections with individuals who share their values of respect and boundary awareness.

Their strong moral compass, often manifesting as what they describe as ‘spiritual purity,’ drives them to champion fairness and justice, sometimes at personal cost. This isn’t mere idealism but an integral part of their psychological makeup that influences their decisions, relationships, and world view.

For those seeking to understand or connect with a Libra, recognizing these core traits—their thoughtful deliberation, value of genuine elegance, and commitment to moral principles—provides the key to meaningful interaction. Rather than seeing their indecision as weakness, appreciate it as evidence of their comprehensive consideration of all possibilities in their eternal pursuit of balance and beauty.